Because you're worth it!
Adelaide Boudoir Photographer
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, meaning it is subjective and different people have different ideas about what beauty is. We often don't fully see the beauty of a person until we get to know them better, and then it becomes hard for us to see the imperfections that haunt them when they stand alone in front of the mirror. When photographing, especially woman, I'm strangely amazed at just how critical they are of themselves, weight being the number one reason to postpone or delay a photo shoot. While having this conversation with one of my clients prior to her shoot, she was telling me how she had NO photographs of her mum pregnant with her and NO photograph of her as a baby with her mum. "I'm still carrying a lot of my baby weight, but it's more important to me to have these images" she said. Kids don't EVER look at photographs of their parents and think "WOW, you've let yourself go!!!" They don't care, YOU ARE THEIR NORMAL!
CHANGE what is in your power to change, and learn to ACCEPT what is not
The principal at my primary school used to open assembly with these words, "open your eyes, so I can see into your heart". What a wise thing to say to such impressionable minds. Those words have always stuck with me and still ring clearly in my ears, albeit almost 30 years down the track. It's true that the eyes are the windows of the soul, and I absolutely love photographing close-up portraits, taking the time to strip away the pretensions (and often pretentiousness) and photographing the "real you" . Getting to know my clients before and during the session is even more rewarding when I get to work on their images afterwards and stare into their soul...okay, that sounded a bit creepy!
I have been busting to explore the Glamour genre and coaxed my "bestie" into her first photo shoot ever while on holiday in the Gold Coast. I think every single person should have a collection of beautiful images of themselves (however public or private) where you can look at them and see what other people see. - thanks for letting me share these my friend :)
The very first time I met Taryn I said that I thought she looked a bit like Celine Dion, apparently she would often be told this and the compliment had worn thin...and although she'd have my head for putting this out there, I guess my point is that we are bombarded with the magazine images, movie stars and seemingly "perfect" people and somewhere during our existence we all want to look like or be associated with or even be someone famous, beautiful, breathtaking...NEWSFLASH, you are! Maybe not famous (yet), but you are beautiful, attractive and desirable, you just have to give yourself permission to be. In reality we all have our "hang-ups", those things that jump out when we look in the mirror that says "You are not good enough", "not pretty enough", "not deserving". Body image is a strange emotional monster that we all face, and in truth we all see things "wrong" with ourselves, our perception of ourselves are nearly always skewed and build on a trailer load of preconceived ideas about "beauty".
I came across a site called mom it forward by Amy Harman where she writes about Body Image and how Positive Affirmations for Accepting and Loving your Body can shift your way of thinking about yourself. I leave you with my favourite quote off her site
"Beauty is a state of mind, not a state of the body"